For years, I knew something didn’t feel right in my marriage, but I thought everyone went through the same things I did. Like many people, I blamed myself, questioned my reality, and kept trying harder. Nothing ever changed.

After reading Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s book, Should I Stay or Should I Go? , the patterns suddenly made sense.

My first reaction wasn’t relief. It was anger.

I was angry that I hadn’t recognized the signs sooner. Angry that I didn’t have the language to describe what I was going through. Angry that so many people, myself included, go years without realizing what’s happening because these patterns are often hidden in plain sight.

My mission isn’t to tell people what decisions they should make. It’s to help them recognize the patterns I couldn’t see, ask better questions, and understand the “why behind the what.”